“Too much of a good thing can be wonderful.” Mae West
I was going to share only the top image for this weekend’s post but I don’t believe in the expression ‘you can have too much of a good thing’ so I decided to go with the triptych instead. I hope you enjoy looking at them as much as I enjoyed taking them.
Wednesday was naughty netballer, today is awesome arse. I may not be tired of the photography but my title tank is running on empty. Day seven of sports week is baseball and for your viewing pleasure may I present the wonderful Exhibit A.
As you might expect from a sports junkie like EA, he had some pretty fab ideas for my sports week prompt. Some of which haven’t even been taken yet so who know, maybe there’ll be another sports week next year? As someone who truly thinks golf is the most boring game in the world I didn’t expect to have my mind changed but with some expert positioning he even managed to make that game super hot. One of the photos is being used for Kayla’s next Masturbation Monday prompt.
Then he knocked it out of the park with this one. I must confess, until a couple of days ago I was intending to use that photo because it’s so amazing I wanted it on my site too. But I was overlooking a couple of others we shot at the same time so in the spirit of sharing as much of that day’s productivity as possible, here’s a new photo for you to admire.
On Tuesday 18th February 2014 I flew to Poland to visit Exhibit A. Six years ago today! I only realised this as I was drafting these posts last night (I’d originally intended this photo to close album cover week on Friday). That was only the second time he and I had ever met and in hindsight maybe it was a bit of a bonkers thing to do, but I was only six months into a new chapter and I was making up for a lot of lost time so when he suggested it I thought ‘fuck it’!
That first evening in Warsaw we discovered we had a shared love of the Manic Street Preachers. Anyone who pays even the slightest bit of attention to my Twitter or blog will know that the Manics occupy a special place in my affections and finding another fan always makes my heart sing. I don’t know how many times I’ve seen them since I paid £6.50 to see them at Warrington Parr Hall in October 1992 – closer to 40 than 30, I’d say – but the last few times have been with Exhibit A. They’ve definitely become one of our red threads.
This blog was started exactly one year later (five years ago this coming weekend!) and pretty much since day one I’ve wanted us to do a copy of this album cover. With those twisted limbs and roses near eyes it’s not really one you can quickly shoot on self-timer when there’s just two of you! Finally, during our group gathering a few weeks back there were enough extra hands for me to be able to tick it off my list.
A lot has changed in those intervening years – a fact that’s probably most neatly summed up by saying his wife took this photo while his one-year-old daughter was napping in my office! Back then I was in a ‘fuck it, I’ll try anything’ phase but not really having any structure to that part of my life or thinking too much about what really made me happy; now I’m in a much more settled place of knowing what combination of ‘partner light’ relationships and casual but valued play date arrangements work for me.
I think I can probably speak for both of us when I say that if someone had told us six years ago that we’d be taking this photo and in what circumstances, neither of us would have believed them. But I’m very happy that as both of our lives have evolved we’ve managed to maintain and grow our own connection. Here’s to many more Manics gigs, late night singalongs to Design for Life and, of course, photos!
I have lots of outtakes of this photo! It’s remarkably hard to get someone to clasp their chest and stare into the distance with an intense and tortured Prince expression on their face without them breaking into giggles.
It’s the final day of food euphemisms week and I’ve saved the best (or worst, depending on how you look at it!) for last. And appropriately it falls on Valentine’s Day.
There are many things I value about having Exhibit A in my life, not least that he is a great partner in photography crime. As well being an excellent model when I decide to get my arty shizzle on, he will also humour my more unusual requests. I thought maybe I’d peaked last year with Cockshot(t) but it seems not. In case you needed any confirmation, he really is the best person to hide the sausage with. Happy Valentine’s Day!
Last Wednesday’s post was a celebration of the friends I spent a wonderful and hilarious Saturday with, capturing many of the photos you’re seeing here this month. You could call this post part two.
One person who was missing from the cast of characters mentioned last week is today’s subject. He also made an appearance in the Sound of Music week and will be here again in the album covers theme next week. Those photos were taken the day before the group gathering but despite not being fuelled by a Bellini brunch he embraced my ridiculous ideas with just as much enthusiasm. And it was the first time I’d ever met him!
As I said last week, I was pretty blown away by what my friends got involved with but at least I’ve got shared history with them. There’s years-long friendships there; they’re people I’ve laughed with, cried with, shared meals and boozy nights with, I’ve been at their weddings and big birthdays and looked after their babies, we’ve played board games and visited museums together. Our photo adventures sit within a rich tapestry of deep friendships.
Not this chap. Imagine being so brilliantly game that within half an hour of meeting someone you’re stood butt naked in a park on a cold and windy January day while a relative stranger straddles a muddy puddle so she gets the right angle. Then going back to her place and posing with an aubergine over your cock. He first mentioned us having a photo adventure back in the autumn after seeing my Yorkshire Moors outing with Missy. He may have been imagining expansive vistas but he got emoji dick pics and muddy suburban parks. I did buy excellent cake, but still, kudos!
But this is yet another thing I love about our little corner of the online world. For all the shittiness and snark it throws our way, Twitter is an excellent place to get to know brilliant people. For the record, this man and I have many good friends in common and had been online acquaintances for a while – he was a ‘by now our paths really should have crossed in offline life’ person. In short, I don’t do photo adventures with actual strangers. Only people I already know I can trust get to lie on my bed holding a shiny purple protuberance.
Thank you for being such an excellent sport. You have many many credits in the bank for majestic outdoors nudes and beautiful arty black and whites and I look forward to you cashing them in!
This shot was a lovely opportunistic surprise. My friend and I were wandering around a maze near where I live. I have visited (and been lost) there many times but had never before spotted the cute way markers dotted round the place. How fortuitous then, when one of our plans for that day was to shoot some images for my February Photo Fest, to spot this bee stone!
This photo became the first photo I took for this year’s challenge (and the first I ever took of this person!) and it’s the last one from my The Sound of Music week. Tomorrow we start on the food themed week. It’s going to get more ridiculous, folks…
Although Blue Monday was a couple of weeks ago, I couldn’t resist bringing a little blue to your Monday this week. But I’m confident that this shot of Exhibit A will leave you feeling anything but blue.
“How beautiful maleness is, if it finds its right expression.”
I have had the happiest two days hanging out with some of the best people that our corner of Twitter has to offer.
Today, a big group of us started the day celebrating Honey‘s birthday over brunch. Ever the opportunist, I got them all back to mine for a photography and fizz extravaganza where we got around half my February PhotoFest shots in the bag, plus a couple of extras for other participants. I can’t wait to show you our work because it is going to be a ridiculous and joyful month on Exposing40!
Yesterday was a less frenetic day hanging out with a new friend, photographing them for the first time. I do love the first time I photograph someone – building that connection and trust, getting to know how they move and look, and gauging their response to my sometimes crazy ideas. There’s some silly photos of them coming up for February PhotoFest but there was also the opportunity to make the most of the late afternoon sunlight for some relaxed peaceful shots that summed up the mood of the afternoon.
This weekend is very exciting: for the first time since 1996 when I put on my degree show, one of my photographs will be hanging in an exhibition. Bare Men: the Group Show opens at The Living Gallery, Brooklyn on Sunday 29th September and will run until Friday 4th October.
The show is curated by Abigail Ekue whose Bare Men series “celebrates the inherent beauty, sensuality, sexuality and vulnerability of the everyday man.” As you probably know, I love photographing men and photography plays a big part in some of my relationships so when Abigail put a call out in June this year for submissions to her group show I knew I had to throw my hat in the ring.
I was delighted that a shot that Exhibit A first shared in December 2017 was selected. If you’re in the area this week please go along and enjoy the photo in all its framed glory, plus all the other stunning images that are hung along side it. To mark the opening of the show I thought I would share another perspective on the same image for this week’s Sinful Sunday.
And while I’ve got your attention, I’m sure you don’t need reminding that this weekend is Smutathon. Exhibit A and many other fabulous and talented writers are in a race against the clock to write as many stories as possible in aid of The National Network of Abortion Funds. If you can afford to give, please do!