At the end of my summer holidays I had a flurry of activity photographing friends who had turned 40 during the last year who for obvious reasons I had not been able to photograph at the time. One of those was LoveLustLondon who turned 40 last October.
One again I headed off to Epping Forest, which is fast becoming one of my favourite places for a photography adventure. As we wandered we found this perfect spot of dappled sunlight.
I couldn’t decide on a title for this post and the only word that was sticking in my head was lust. Mainly because seeing this man naked, whether that’s in the flesh, flicking through old photos or on the screen for a remote photo session always just makes me feel lusty and content.
Sitting here with my Saturday brew I idly Googled ‘what’s the colour of lust?’ thinking ‘wouldn’t it be funny if it’s blue,’ and goodness me, it is! God know why lust is one of the seven deadly sins though. How can something that makes me smile this much be a sin?
“My favourite plum Hangs so far from me See how it sleeps And hear how it calls to me.” Suzanne Vega, My Favourite Plum
My good friend Jedi Hamsteris a mine of pop trivia (though she has this weird idea that the German version of 99 Balloons is best so is not 100% trustworthy! 😝) so when I was stuck for ideas on my song title week I turned to her.
I didn’t know this song but when I looked at the lyrics I laughed out loud. What an excellent unintentional troll of lockdown celibacy. As well as the lyrics above we have “it will be so sweet, I’ve been so dry” and many more – have a read! It’s a brilliantly horny set of lyrics! As Suzanne sings, I am indeed right here and while I’m not longing endlessly, I am very much looking forward to tasting my favourite plums!
It’s time for my first guest of this month’s February Photo Fest. I bring you the fabulous and gorgeous Jaffa! If you pay close attention to his timeline (and why wouldn’t you?!) then you may recognise this shot as he tweeted it last summer. But until now it didn’t have a permanent home on the blog and, well, isn’t nice to see a flash of summer (and arse!) on the timeline? I can’t wait for summer 2021 photography adventures – they’re going to feel even sweeter this year!
When we took this photo in August we commented how nice it would be to see this glorious green just as the days are getting short and dark. Little did we know then that when I posted this birthday shot we would have a week of solid rain and grey here in the UK and be facing another lockdown. How far away this weather and freedom feels at the moment.
Happy birthday Jaffa – guessing your half century is going to be a little bit subdued but hope you get an appropriate celebration in due course!
These days vagary is most commonly used when we talk about the vagaries of a situation, meaning an unpredictable or erratic occurrence. But the etymology of the word is vagari, the Latin word for wander.
This weekend’s subject is @lovelustlondon. This coming Wednesday he’ll be joining club 40 and he should be enjoying a vagari in Tibet but due to the vagaries of 2020 he’s not!
This shot was taken a few years ago when we took an early morning walk in Richmond Park. We are going to do a new shoot for his 40th but much like a lot of 2020 it’s on hold until 2021. When spring rolls around we’ll take a day trip somewhere out of the city and get some truly celebratory shots, but until then you can feast your eyes on this one!
“Too much of a good thing can be wonderful.” Mae West
I was going to share only the top image for this weekend’s post but I don’t believe in the expression ‘you can have too much of a good thing’ so I decided to go with the triptych instead. I hope you enjoy looking at them as much as I enjoyed taking them.
Wednesday was naughty netballer, today is awesome arse. I may not be tired of the photography but my title tank is running on empty. Day seven of sports week is baseball and for your viewing pleasure may I present the wonderful Exhibit A.
As you might expect from a sports junkie like EA, he had some pretty fab ideas for my sports week prompt. Some of which haven’t even been taken yet so who know, maybe there’ll be another sports week next year? As someone who truly thinks golf is the most boring game in the world I didn’t expect to have my mind changed but with some expert positioning he even managed to make that game super hot. One of the photos is being used for Kayla’s next Masturbation Monday prompt.
Then he knocked it out of the park with this one. I must confess, until a couple of days ago I was intending to use that photo because it’s so amazing I wanted it on my site too. But I was overlooking a couple of others we shot at the same time so in the spirit of sharing as much of that day’s productivity as possible, here’s a new photo for you to admire.
On Tuesday 18th February 2014 I flew to Poland to visit Exhibit A. Six years ago today! I only realised this as I was drafting these posts last night (I’d originally intended this photo to close album cover week on Friday). That was only the second time he and I had ever met and in hindsight maybe it was a bit of a bonkers thing to do, but I was only six months into a new chapter and I was making up for a lot of lost time so when he suggested it I thought ‘fuck it’!
That first evening in Warsaw we discovered we had a shared love of the Manic Street Preachers. Anyone who pays even the slightest bit of attention to my Twitter or blog will know that the Manics occupy a special place in my affections and finding another fan always makes my heart sing. I don’t know how many times I’ve seen them since I paid £6.50 to see them at Warrington Parr Hall in October 1992 – closer to 40 than 30, I’d say – but the last few times have been with Exhibit A. They’ve definitely become one of our red threads.
This blog was started exactly one year later (five years ago this coming weekend!) and pretty much since day one I’ve wanted us to do a copy of this album cover. With those twisted limbs and roses near eyes it’s not really one you can quickly shoot on self-timer when there’s just two of you! Finally, during our group gathering a few weeks back there were enough extra hands for me to be able to tick it off my list.
A lot has changed in those intervening years – a fact that’s probably most neatly summed up by saying his wife took this photo while his one-year-old daughter was napping in my office! Back then I was in a ‘fuck it, I’ll try anything’ phase but not really having any structure to that part of my life or thinking too much about what really made me happy; now I’m in a much more settled place of knowing what combination of ‘partner light’ relationships and casual but valued play date arrangements work for me.
I think I can probably speak for both of us when I say that if someone had told us six years ago that we’d be taking this photo and in what circumstances, neither of us would have believed them. But I’m very happy that as both of our lives have evolved we’ve managed to maintain and grow our own connection. Here’s to many more Manics gigs, late night singalongs to Design for Life and, of course, photos!