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Simply Me

Last Tuesday morning birthday boy Exhibit A tweeted that his DMs were open for “allllllll your best nudes.” I giggled, wondered how many he’d get then thought nothing more of it. Shortly after midnight he tweeted a thank you. I suddenly realised that not only had I not sent him a birthday nude but it had not even occurred to me to do so.

I am a very bad sender of sexy nudes. I’m an excellent taker and editor of arty farty flattering nudes. I’m on the money when it comes to adding flourish and humour to photos. I’ll make sure my friends and I have so much fun being naked that we forget about the bits of ourselves we don’t like. But I hardly ever just grab the camera to take a candid shot of naked me to send a partner or lover, to let them know I’m thinking about them or to turn them on.

Don’t get me wrong, I do send partners nudes, but it’s always just an advance viewing of one that’s going to be on a blog. And even if it’s for their eyes only, it’s still always slightly curated and edited. In short I send them the photos of me that I like, not the unfiltered unedited ones that are the real me, that would help them imagine they’re there with me. It’s ridiculous really. I’m not a shy naked person. When I’m with a partner I happily wander around with all the wobbles on show and I never feel the need to cover up when we hang out on the sofa after sex or sit and eat dinner. But when they’re with me they’ve got all of me – the whole package of what makes me me and my body is just part of that. When I’m sending a photo suddenly my body is a one dimensional thing captured in pixels and I’m less confident about my nudity. Which is why they get the same curated shots that the outside world gets. And that’s terrible because I’m demanding of their natural off the cuff nudes and I whine if I haven’t had any for a while.

So anyway, in the early hours of Wednesday morning I read Exhibit A’s thank you tweet, had a sudden flash of guilt about not sending him a birthday photo, sat bolt upright in bed and snapped three quick photos. I sent them along with an apology and a less wordy version of this post. The response was encouraging but also gently chastised me for continuing to think this negative shit. And you know what, I do like this photo. The natural me isn’t as bad in reality as it is in my head. I doubt you’ll see many photos like this on my blog. I like my arty farty funny style too much. But I am resolving to send partners more photos that are simply me.

Sinful Sunday


  1. HappyComeLucky

    This is a gorgeous picture of you. I’m glad you can see that and I think your partners are going to be very happy to receive more nudes.

  2. elliott

    I like the natural you. And you know what? Sometimes these types of photos can be the most arty.

  3. May More

    You have a fab body – the natural in u is great 😉

  4. Victoria Blisse

    It’s a really lovely photo of you 🙂

  5. Missus Whispers

    Simply you is simply beautiful! xx

  6. DeviantSuccubus

    I like when pictures are real and natural, just as much as the filtered and touched up ones. There is a warmth and vulnerability, but also a strength to this picture. Also, you have a fantastic body!

  7. Vida

    I agree, that’s a properly lovely photo.

  8. Marie Rebelle

    You look absolutely gorgeous, C! Thank you for sharing this with us too 🙂

    Rebel xox

  9. Molly

    I can totally relate to this, although using my phone for more images for IG has inspired me to take more pictures that fit this category and some of them even make it to my blog too but some of them only ever get seen by a very select audience


  10. Focused and Filthy

    I love this post (and image). I’ve got so use to trying to get a perfect picture that I rarely send quick snaps these days. This is a wonderful reminder at how nice they are and how well received they are too. Thank you
    Missy x

  11. missy

    This is a lovely and natural image of you. I can understand completely why you don’t send these as much as you could though and I am the same ?

  12. MariaSibylla

    I love this image and this post. As a fellow fan of arty nudes, I understand the challenge of taking something more natural and off the cuff. I need to learn to embrace this style in my own photos sometimes because this is wonderful!

  13. Bee

    I’m the same. Carefully crafted blog images but never a quick snapped nude. I’m just not a photographer, I have no idea of framing and what looks good and doing myself a mischief trying to stretch my arms for a good selfie definitely doesn’t work for me.

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